perspective. patience. purpose.
People who suffers from PTSD are prone to problematic patterns when placed in positions of perilous predicaments such as a pandemic. My method of survival is perspective, patience, and purpose.
When you suffer from any sort of mental health condition (and even when you don’t!) you have to be hyper vigilant and self aware when faced with high stress situations so that you can find ways to self-soothe. It is easy to go down the rabbit hole of anxiety, paranoia, and depression; So you need to do something to regain perspective and maintain your sanity. Spending time at home should not be looked at like a punishment. Your home should be your safe space, and you should be your own best friend. Learn to be alone with yourself – Silence and solitude can be comforting; even enjoyable. It’s all about perspective.
Many of the people I’ve talked to seem to be struggling a great deal with quarantine. I make a conscious choice every day to look at the situation positively. I stop and think about what I can do to make each day enjoyable. I plan my day and my time with Peanut. I make up projects for us – The organization factor makes it feel more like an event and less like just being at home. I choose to take this time to make memories instead of misery. And I don’t spend money to do things; I don’t have money to waste. We have dance parties in the living room with twinkling white lights from Christmas; we have movie nights; we FaceTime with friends. Today we laid on a blanket under the fan on high and pretended it’s a beach day with Coldplay playing on the boom box. Little simple plans.
It’s easy to fall into feelings of despair. Life is chaotic and stressful on its own, so when you add a pandemic, it magnifies the intensity of any negative feelings. It’s hard to see beyond the fog of the current terrible situation, and sometimes we need to be reminded to keep going. One of my favorite quotes is from a limited series (highly underrated), called Political Animals:
So that’s what I do, Reader. I keep going. And I want you to keep going. And I know it requires patience – which some of us lack. But I’m hopelessly hopeful (as is tattooed on my arm).
A great way to keep perspective is to have purpose. My purpose is Peanut.
What is your purpose? What keeps you going? You don’t need to have a tiny human. Maybe it’s your fur babies, or your goals to change the world, your bff, your mom, your goal to someday play Carnegie hall… Nothing is too great or too small.
Five little things I’m grateful for today: 1) that when I fell I only sprained my wrist and elbow and didn’t break anything; 2) Peanut is being super chill while I write this; 3) that it’s been hardcore raining (I LOVE the rain!!); 4) homemade chocolate chip cookies a friend dropped off; 5) Coldplay – Peanut and I are relaxing to some mellow Coldplay songs.
What to watch: Political Animals starring Sigourney Weaver. It was a limited time series but really fucking amazing. Although I am bias because I am a huge fan of hers but it is very smart and well written.
Pup pics: rainy days laziness and snuggles